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Great Habit – Build on Thanksgiving!

Shawn Kinkade — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 05:00:24 +0000

It’s hard to believe that next week is Thanksgiving – for me at least, 2011 has gone by in a blur (…time flies when you’re having fun?)! Thanksgiving is always a great reminder to take a little time for yourself and think about what you’re grateful for. Even better – use the time for reflection and start a new habit of appreciation that you can carry throughout the year.

I first thought about doing a straight list of things I’m thankful for, but Jason over at Blue Gurus beat me to the punch with his 10 Things We’re Thankful for this Year post, so I decided to take a slightly different approach.

Why be Thankful?

For starters it turns out that being authentically grateful for what you have confers a whole host of mental and physical health benefits! Check out this great article from the Wall Street Journal – Thank You. No, Thank You. There’s a lot of really strong information in there, including research that shows the following:

Adults who frequently feel grateful have more energy, more optimism, more social connections and more happiness than those who do not, according to studies conducted over the past decade. They’re also less likely to be depressed, envious, greedy or alcoholics. They earn more money, sleep more soundly, exercise more regularly and have greater resistance to viral infections.

All in all, that’s a pretty strong list of benefits – and it doesn’t even touch on the idea that people are naturally drawn to those with the confidence and humility to give credit to others.

Try This

Obviously there’s no deep secret on how to feel grateful – odds are you’ve had that experience. The more challenging part is to give yourself the time and the mechanism for doing it on a regular basis (and not just over turkey).

One approach that might work for you is to use a Gratitude Journal…every day or maybe every week sit down somewhere quiet and write down 3 to 5 things you’re grateful for. Try to be specific and remember it doesn’t have to earth shattering, often it’s the little things in life that add a lot of meaning.

If you’re a little more high tech…and thankful for your iPhone or iPad, you might want to check out the Gratitude Journal App from HappyTapper (I love that name).

It sounds overly simplistic that just reflecting and journaling on the positives in your life can make a difference, but the reality is that you are what you think. (On a related note – here’s a great article from Entrepreneur on You Are What You Think).

Me? I’m thankful for a lot of things: I’m thankful that my family is healthy and despite often crazy schedules we still have time to get together and have fun now and then. I’m thankful for all the things my wife does to support me (and make the family thing actually work…).

I’m thankful for my great clients – not only are they all great people that I enjoy hanging out with, but they are attempting and doing a lot of interesting and important things and every day I appreciate the opportunity to help them get to where they want to go.

Finally – I’m thankful for the times we live in. Yes the economy is awful and politicians across the board continue to be selfish, short-sighted and often stupid. But despite all of that, we are truly living in amazing times with technology and societal wonders happening all around us. We don’t have flying cars or Hover Boards just yet, but we are seeing a lot of cool things every day.

What are you thankful for? Take some time to write it down…or share your thoughts in the comments below – we’d love to hear from you.

Shawn Kinkade Kansas City Business Coach

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25 Great pieces of Advice for Start-ups

Shawn Kinkade — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 18:11:51 +0000

From the Kauffman Foundation’s Sketchbook – Three Things!

This week we are celebrating the 3rd annual Global Entrepreneurship Week, started by our hometown Kauffman Foundation. With all the focus on generating great ideas and starting up businesses, I wanted to pass along some great advice from business owners and entrepreneurs who made their jump in the last few years.

Making that jump to start your own business takes a lot of guts and the more you can learn from those who have done it, the better off you’ll be. To that end, I did an informal interview with a few of my Peer Group Advisory Boards and asked them simply:

“What’s the best advice you would give someone who’s planning to start a business now?”

Here’s the summary of their responses in no particular order.

Enjoy the upside to owning your own business – you’re in charge and you get the freedom and control to do what you want to do. Additionally you have the opportunity to build something that’s all yours.
Building a business is complex and you aren’t going to be an expert in everything – don’t be afraid to ask for help along the way.
Find a mentor. Someone you can bounce ideas off of, who can help you get perspective and hold you accountable.
You’ve got to be flexible…the market will change and your understanding of the market and your business will change as well. Be prepared to adjust your course.
Do what you can to find multiple revenue streams, more ways to generate money. If you only have one product or service, it’s likely you’ll get stuck and it’s good to have something to fall back on.
Even though you’re in a hurry to get started, take the time up front to really plan things out. Your upfront costs and decisions can make or break you. Take the time to make sure it’s money well spent.
Understand your financials and get accounting and payroll help as soon as you can afford it.
Have patience, things will take longer and cost more than you think
Make sure you have enough financial runway so you’re not panicked or have to shut down if things take longer than you expect to get off the ground.
Whatever business you’re in, you’re in the business of marketing first – if you can’t position and market your product / service effectively not much else matters.
Make it your focus to add value with every contact you have (clients, networking contacts, pretty much everyone).
Be clear on what you’re getting into when you start a business: Long hours, challenges outside of your comfort zone and a lonely path. It’s a tough challenge (but worth it when you succeed).
Get comfortable with risk and uncertainty. It will be a while before you can count on a regular paycheck (like possibly 12 to 18 months).
Make sure you’ve got family support and they’re excited about what you’re doing.
Build connections (real relationships) – networking and building the right win-win relationships is crucial to long term success.
Give yourself a clear go / no-go date to help you manage the bumps in the road. If you have a bad month early on, you still have time to recover because you haven’t hit your date yet.
Be clear on why you want to create your business…if you’re not excited about what you’re doing, no one else will be either.
Make sure you create and work off of a written business plan (can be as simple as a couple of pages, but a plan that covers where the money comes from and where it’s going).
Starting something isn’t easy and it isn’t quick – it takes hard work to succeed.
Have faith in yourself, when things get tough you have to push through.
Your business has a gestational age…despite your full commitment few will take you seriously until you’ve been around at least 9 months…sometimes much longer.
Read the E-Myth and be aware of your mix between Entrepreneur, Manager and Technician (and understand what that means).
Setup an advisory board for your business – people you trust who will tell you hard truths and encourage you.
Figure out if you have the disposition to be an entrepreneur. Look for clues in your past – if you’ve never taken ownership and pushed to make money independently it will be tough to succeed in your own business.
Passion trumps perfection, you can’t wait for it to be just right you have to get out there and start making things happen.

There’s nothing as challenging or as rewarding as creating your own business. And a big part of that challenge is getting your new business off the ground. It’s not for the faint of heart, but the above advice can help you succeed in the critical first year.

What advice above resonates with you? What’s the best advice you’ve heard for entrepreneurs? (Or business owners in general?) Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Shawn Kinkade Kansas City Business Coach

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Want to struggle with your business? Here’s how!

Shawn Kinkade — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 15:43:26 +0000

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Imagine that all of the money, influence and power in your world is a pie (apple in this case). Now imagine hundreds…no thousands…of people in your industry, your geographic space, your niche of business all vying for their piece of that pie! There is no way there’s enough pie to go around – if you’re going to get the pie you need it’s clear that you need to step on people, be ruthless and constantly be looking out for yourself. You must win at all costs!

Sound overblown? Unfortunately it’s not – it’s called a scarcity mentality and most people default to this mentality unless they actively guard against it. Here’s Stephen Covey’s take (from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People – Habit #4 Think Win-Win):

Most people are deeply scripted in what I call the Scarcity Mentality….

The Scarcity Mentality is the zero-sum paradigm of life. People with a Scarcity Mentality have a very difficult time sharing recognition and credit, power or profit – even with those who help in the production. The also have a a very hard time being genuinely happy for the success of other people.

It’s an insidious problem because it gets worse with fear, so if you start to struggle in your business, you will shift to more of a scarcity mindset, which brings on more fear, less collaboration and ultimately makes all the problems worse!

You start looking at all transactions as a Win-Lose proposition – you have to win and the other person has to lose (‘cause there’s only so much to go around). However Win-Lose relationships aren’t sustainable and you’ll soon find yourself alone against the world wondering why everyone has turned on you!

Overall it’s a pretty bleak picture (especially since we started with apple pie!).

Or…you could think abundance and Win-Win!

Here’s what Covey has to say about the abundance mentality:

The Abundance Mentality, on the other hand, flow out of a deep inner sense of personal worth and security. It is the paradigm that there is plenty out there and enough to spare for everybody. It results in sharing of prestige, of recognition, of profits, of decision making. It opens possibilities, options, alternatives, and creativity.

Ultimately that sounds like a whole lot more fun and it positions you for long term success, great relationships with other people and the ability to follow your passions and believe that good things can happen!

An abundance mentality is a choice – not that it’s easy to just start looking at things a new way, but if you work at it and really focus on developing only Win-Win scenarios, you can change your outlook.

What to look for?

How you can you recognize if you’re stuck in a scarcity mentality? Here are a few things to look for:

1. You spend more time worrying about your competition than about your customers.

2. You’re in a networking group and extremely concerned that a new member of the group is going to overlap with what you do and take your referrals.

3. You refuse to share ideas, resources or your connections with anyone else – regardless of whether they are sharing with you.

4. You worry constantly about whether you’re good enough or whether you’ll have enough.

5. You constantly look at how hard things are and why you can’t do things.

6. You fear change, other people, pretty much anything that’s not the status quo.

Do you notice this with anyone around you? It may be difficult at first to notice it in yourself, but I would challenge you to periodically see if you’re slipping into ‘scarcity’ mode.

What can you do about it?

As mentioned above, the first step is to be aware that you have choices and you can consciously work on having a Win-Win approach and an abundance mentality. A couple of months ago I wrote about a great book called Mindset by Carol S. Dweck, she talks about Fixed and Growth mindsets (and how to migrate to a Growth mindset). It’s not exactly the same thing, but it’s related and can move you forward.

Secondly, start hanging around with can-do people that have the right mentality. If you start noticing people that are around you have the wrong approach – do the hard thing and stop hanging out with them (even if they’re friends and family)! Relationships can be poisonous or they can be uplifting…you get to choose.

Start challenging yourself to consistently to ask “how can we make this work for both of us?” , “What can I do to help you?” and to look for the successes and positives rather than the failures..

Fear and scarcity ultimately leads to regrets, struggles and failures. It doesn’t sound like a great way to go…so why does it seem like so many people are stuck there? I’d love to hear your thoughts – share them below.

Shawn Kinkade Kansas City Business Coach

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