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Imagine that all of the money, influence and power in your world is a pie (apple in this case). Now imagine hundreds…no thousands…of people in your industry, your geographic space, your niche of business all vying for their piece of that pie! There is no way there’s enough pie to go around – if you’re going to get the pie you need it’s clear that you need to step on people, be ruthless and constantly be looking out for yourself. You must win at all costs!
Sound overblown? Unfortunately it’s not – it’s called a scarcity mentality and most people default to this mentality unless they actively guard against it. Here’s Stephen Covey’s take (from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People – Habit #4 Think Win-Win):
Most people are deeply scripted in what I call the Scarcity Mentality….
The Scarcity Mentality is the zero-sum paradigm of life. People with a Scarcity Mentality have a very difficult time sharing recognition and credit, power or profit – even with those who help in the production. The also have a a very hard time being genuinely happy for the success of other people.
It’s an insidious problem because it gets worse with fear, so if you start to struggle in your business, you will shift to more of a scarcity mindset, which brings on more fear, less collaboration and ultimately makes all the problems worse!
You start looking at all transactions as a Win-Lose proposition – you have to win and the other person has to lose (‘cause there’s only so much to go around). However Win-Lose relationships aren’t sustainable and you’ll soon find yourself alone against the world wondering why everyone has turned on you!
Overall it’s a pretty bleak picture (especially since we started with apple pie!).
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